#Fail

The title is in reference to Twitter's trending topics fad.

So, what has failed? The economy. Check. War against terrorism. Check. Politician's integrity. Check. Hopes. Check. Life. Check.

A batch mate of mine killed himself last week. Apparent reason given, is his inability to  get a job after studying at BITS, Pilani. And I got to know of this through tweets from fellow BITSians. He was a brilliant student, a hardworking guy and the only son. The news shocked me beyond wits. Why would anyone take such a step! And how?! I have often heard people saying, 'Suicide is Cowardly'. I doubt it. I don't think I can imagine hanging myself from the fan, writhing in agony, choking for breath, waiting to die. The momentary courage drives a person into such an extreme. But what gets left behind! Parents, who collect the shattered remains of their lives and would henceforth, probably, never sleep peacefully. Haunting memories of their child that was.

All that was running in my head was, 'What's wrong with people?!' Are we not taught to handle pressure? Can we not have some patience and look for alternatives? If something doesn't go the way we planned, what should we do? Kill ourselves? Not possible. Then what? I'm not delving into reasons of him taking such a decision. People have been contemplating financial status, parental pressure etc. But still. There has to be a way out.

These days I see parents demanding good grades, excellent dancing/ singing/ speaking/ painting skills from a child who has not even turned 10. After school, there's guitar class, then tuitions, then swimming! Coaching for IIT JEE begins from 6th standard nowadays. And every kid is expected to be nothing but THE BEST in any field that he ventures. Ok. Fine! Who comes second now? Or third in class? This madness has to stop somewhere. Or else, live with the consequences. 

We are  humans. We try. We fail sometimes. Succeed the rest of the times. It's natural. We can't force our expectations onto children. Every individual has his own capacity and capability. And when nurtured properly, they'll come out with flying colors. But that does not mean that just because A's son earns a fortune working for XYZ company or B's daughter is the brightest in math, your kid should be, too! Isn't your kid the bundle of joy you got, into this world! Share the joy! Appreciate them for what they are. And teach them to accept failures. 

Another thing that keeps popping in my head is dignity of work. No job is any lesser. If you do not work at Google, doesn't mean you are not worth anything! Every job has its value. Every work is respectful. Well, blame the society for glorifying some and mocking the others. It has made people think that it's below their dignity to foray into something less known or less paid for. Kids need to be taught the value of work. Things don't come easy in life and hardships are a part and parcel of it. Help your kids when they need you the most. Guide them. Show them alternative paths. Stand by them. Be glad at least they are there.

What would you rather have? A child who works in an average company and brings home enough money to make a contented livelihood or his picture adorned with fresh flowers? Make a choice.

P.S. I got back home from work and called my parents to tell them that they were the most awesome ones in the world! Love you both!

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61 comments:

Aquarius said...

hey Kadambari....wonderful post and how succintly put..

I too would blame parents who drive their kids crazy with studies and classes. I think that trend is there only in India. Here in UK I see kids don't even have a school bag. They can choose what they want to become.

In India there is always a race for something a good school, the best job, the best car, the best gadget and the list is endless. This increases stress levels and makes one do crazy things.

And dignity of labour is one thing we truly need to learn.I could go on but this is a comment and not a post so I stop here :)

Choco said...

I am really saddened to read about your friend. I have myself had friends take this extreme step when they were as young as 16 years of age!

Your post is extremely well written, straight from the heart & poignant. I really hope it will help someone somewhere reach out to another in need or teach them to be kind and not but in with their 2 cents were it is not needed.

Abk said...

I wud very much agree with you that its the parents who drive themselves and their kids crazy to be a part of this rat race. But then, is it totally their fault?

Picture this, were things the same, say, 20-30 years earlier? What has probably changed is the amount of competition one faces. I've seen a couple of cases when people around me made similar choices, and those were not induced merely by parental pressure, but peer pressure.

One big reason to which we can account all this is the fact that here in India, if one has to get something good, he has to put up a fight for it. We have 3-4 lakh students to compete with for some 5000-6000 seats in good management education institutes. And the situation aint any different with engineering or medical streams. Then its no different with the jobs.

In a situation when the supply is way too short of demand, and where smallest of things cud make a difference between have and have-not, it is natural for anyone to feel that amount of pressure.

Though, I dont disagree that parents too are responsible for thrusting their kids into these so called "mainstreams", but then, they are not the only ones responsible.

Kadambari said...

So do I, Choco!

You're right, Aquarius. Indian kids seem to be burdened more. But like Abk has mentioned, it's the competition that drives people to such pressures.

I agree Abk. But also, when the competition is tough and peer pressure is too much, it's the parents who could turn friends/ counselors to their children. I'm not blaming parents as such. All I'm saying is they need to accept the child they way s/he is and teach her/him to sustain difficulties in life. Children are like wet cement. And parents make a very prominent impression on them. Their attitude decides their kids' life!

Abk said...

I totally agree with what u have to say, but then again, the problem is that the parents themselves are usually too stretched, because of the competition they face at their workplaces. They're usually so busy and frustrated themselves, and it doesn't help the situation any better. If only the parents were in a situation to be able to spend some time with their kids. Now, I am not trying to say that it works as a perfect excuse, since many parents despite of all these adversities, do play out their roles pretty well, but most of them arent able to. And when parents are not really able to spend time with their kids, then usually the kids turn to their peers, which may be good or bad in a chance event.
So, its like, "The same sun, which bakes clay hard, also melts butter."

♥ÐÅyÐяєÅмє®♥ said...

I was going to commit that not very long ago..but thinking of my parents...just never let me do it...I guess I am now over that ...

but it is real pain ...when u see people succeeding and yet u r failing without any reason...

god bless his soul

dmanji said...

isn't success a relative term... we value high scores, good job, high salary etc..as being the measure of 'success' but i think parents must teach their children the true essence of life in accepting failures as well... like you said its very much a part of the nature....u win some yet u lose some...

Amol Naik said...

Thoughts well portrayed, clear like a river!

I am horrified by the incidence and I absolutely agree with you, that suicides are not cowardly but driven by momentary courage. What possibly drives people to the extreme stage is possibly a lack of "meaning" in life, or a simple "cause".

I wished his parents, friends had provided him enough support and motivation, to bulge out of the tough situation. About society, nobody should give a damn..

I remember a line from some film: "Everybody falls down, its about how fast you get up!". I guess, getting up and reigning over is the best "cause" you could think in these times...

Dream'R said...

hmmm...very interesting..hmmmm..

firstly..it doesnt require guts/ courage to committ suicide..yeah sure the scene is distressing but let that not fool u..when one commits suicide one is lookin for an easy excuse to all the problems one has to face..so rather than choosing to stand and fight the fight he/ she prefers to say adios amigo..i m outta ere...

And as far as parental pressure goes..hmm...yeah i can see where u r coming from...i guess parents wanting the very best for their kids aint wrong but sometimes they just overdo it with their persistant requirement for them to excel at wat they do..sometimes being average joe aint all that bad...but come on yaar its not just all of that stress that drives a person towards suicide..yes ur friend died and i m sorry for ur loss ..i reall am..but sometimes its in the make up of the person so i d rather blame the parent for the way he was brought up than the pressure exerted on him...

I guess we r one of the lucky few whose parents just let us live the lives we want...no pressure nothing..i m pretty thankful i have the parents i have too

nice entry on a whole..enjoyed reading it..oh and sorry for the long reply ; -)

luv
amith

witsnnuts said...

Expectation forces ppl to get into something that doesn't give them even a microgram of satisfaction . Satisfaction is the sole purpose of a career. Millions of dollars cannot bring satisfaction. No Satisfaction means less productive work ... We all end up losing due to these expectations. Its nothing short of cheating ourselves. Result, there are only few ppl in our country who get into novel stuffs like wildlife photography or arts. Nowadays Engineering colleges are synonymous with 'Tea Kadais'( one in every lane ).
I wish people follow their heart's call, rather than parents' call.

Nice post.

Mukund said...

I agree with you... no situation can be that tough that you commit a sucide and give up your life. There is no problem without a solution and if you are not able to find the solution may you are just not looking in the right direction for it.
No job is small or big. Moreover at a young age I suppose it should be more about what you learn...

Adesh Sidhu said...

We read about suicides everyday but real loss is felt only when someone around us do it, someone whom we know and someone with whom we can connect. It is tough but we need to move on.

I hope other students learn from this incident and work hard to do well in their lives.

kinni said...

I'd like to say something. Suicide is a result of momentary insanity. Instead of being judgmental everyone should take a moment and think about the extreme emotion that that guy felt. No one has the right to judge his actions, especially because you dont know what he was feeling. And consider his parents loss before you blame them. This is for you Dream'R!

varunshridhar said...

The only people who can dare such an act are the people who only bother about their own self and not others. The affected parents or even the others might say that talkng is easy. Well, in that case, personal experiences nearly pushed me to such madness a few years back but I stood strong - cos I realised the smallest of families can't get any smaller.

You've written your emotions out but I feel it kinda puts a lil more pressure on parenting. not sure why you chose that sort of style but I'm hoping there'd definitely be a reason.

Sure there's respect to the departed but May God give more courage and a meaning to live for to the people who've incurred this loss.

varunshridhar said...

and I second Kinni on the fact that suicide is momentary insanity and also the point that no one has the right to judge his action. But I still feel he wouldn't have done this had he thought more about his parents than of himself. RIP.

rads said...

Awesome write-up and I agree with you 100%. Indians are brought up with such nonsense attitude and I can very well associate myself with parental pressure. I always had it and I still do. But somewhere in between I stopped listening to anyone except myself and what I want to do with my life. Not everybody can meet expectations especially when they are too high n demanding irrespective of what the person likes and wants to do. Here in US the education system is easy on kids. They are just exposed to all kinds of options and allowed to excel in what they choose or whatever they are comfortable in. In India the only good career is a doc, engg, or law or some other such professional jobs. Parents are so blind sometimes and want us to be blind as well. Its high time they open their eyes and look at all the options available and give us some freedom of choice. Kids are not Robots and every child is unique in its own way.

Sumit said...

As someone who did contemplate taking that step a few foolish years ago, I can understand what goes on in a vulnerable, sensitive mind exposed to the vagaries of the rat race.

Yes, it is insanity. Yes, it is criminal. But then, can't we support our friends, families, and acquaintances better so that they don't turn to this step at all?

Vyazz said...

Its a pity, when people decide to take extreme steps to put them out of their own miseries. What can I say, its all about the pressure.
Its true some parents can be very demanding at times, but at the same time there are individuals who expect too much from themselves. Making exorbitant demands from them selves.
I for instance, am a very severe self critic, and frankly I can end up deceiving my own self thinking that I'm letting people down, whereas in reality I am not!!
Its wrong I know, but in the current competitive world, people seldom cut themselves some slack.
And the thing is, its psychology, you may never know the person opposite you may be depressed because, he/she is an expert at controlling their emotions!!!
Its a feeling of absolute hopelessness, and despair, and without the right support or understanding from family and friends, people do take extreme measures!!

Karthik said...

Very sad indeed. I have never been able to understand, what drives people to do such things. I mean, when I go crazy or get frustrated, I am never suicidal. I am always homicidal.

And it's a pity that it's almost always the bright guys that end up doing something like this.

I know not getting a job in present situations is bound to drive people crazy, but surely it's not worth losing one's life for.Nothing's ever worth that.

Asmita said...

I so agree with u say I doubt its cowardly. It bugs to think of it as an act of a coward. I am probably one of the first few kids who went for JEE prep in 6th grade. I, personally, have a vengeance with these training institute. They make you feel like filth because i cannot appreciate math as much the next person. I ran the complete opposite way when I knew i couldn't do it. I dont blame my parents though, they never forced me into anything. Being a Med student feels MUCH, MUCH better than an IIT aspirant! I wish this stops, its already at its worst. I've lost so many friends because of this, either suicides or low morale.
Sigh!

Nicely said.

Kokonad said...

I felt really bad on reading this. May his soul rest in peace.
Your poignant phrasing of every line in the post clearly shows how shaken you are. I hope you come around soon!

lafemmereva said...

I really hope we stop being so hard on ourselves. A bad grade or a delayed job offer makes us loosers. Then what does 4 years of concentrated effort in education make us?

I hope the boy's family finds the strength to move on. My prayers are with them.

A journey called Life said...

sorry about ur batch mate..hope u feel better soon..

u r absolutely correct about the kids being pushed to being best in almost everything that is fashionable to do.. never mind that they are good at something else that is not quite the norm... u r talking about 6 and 10 year olds, it freaked me out to see a mother of an 18 month old, being rude with her kid, as he could not recite alphabets when his class mate in the play group could very easily do so..

as a parent, its my constant and consious effort to try and not be hard on my kid.. beleive me standing on this side of the fence and having been the other side, not long ago, i get to see it from both sides. in this age of feirce competition, i guess parents get carried away and do not want their kids to lag behind and hence all that pressure (im in no way justifying this)

lets just hope wisdom prevails..

sorry about having gone on and on

Kadambari said...

I would just like to thank everyone for taking a moment to pitch in your views.

I shall not judge him 'coz I was not in his shoes. I'm just wondering about the possible causes of such disasters. In this competitive world, it's obvious that one gets insecure and wants to be on top of the world. And parents just want their kids to live a happy, trouble free life. All that is needed is to teach them, that failures are not the end of life!

Like Amol has rightly said, "Everybody falls down, its about how fast you get up!"

TW said...

Hey K.. Sorry to hear about your batchmate.. I understand the post completely... when I joined B-school, we heard a similar story of 1 of our seniors who took his life because he was having a tough time get placed in Summers.. Summers!!! :OO for Chrissake!! Anyway, I don't understand but Indian society is definitely to blame... And it manifests in soo many ways.. from the merest jerks who become managers to the extreme of suicide and somewhere in between the rebels..
I wrote abt this sometime back whn B school placements got over this yr
http://thoughtwrought.blogspot.com/2009/03/duh-it-isnt-all-just-about-money-you.html

et said...

Sorry about your friend.

When we look at people taking hard steps to get outta their worries, i mean when we're looking from outside, we can do nothing more than making a lot of guesses on their state of mind, discussing about the good n bad of self-harm and all. Suicide is often the final way seeked and sometimes there are things in it we never can understand.

Anyway i shuld say that your post was a good feel. I surely hope it helps someone out there to smile a bit and to have a better day.. :)

Amal Bose said...

wonderful post..
i think the parents are to be blamed for this. children should be given their own freedom and they should decide on their future. its usually the pressure from parents that makes them frustrated and it brings in the feeling of hopelessness and they feel lost.
no wonder, they choose end it all..

pisku said...

I don't know what to say really.

ki said...

Wow. A batchmate of mine commietted suicide because she did not get the course of her choice and I seriously don't believe that she was a coward. She was just bullied by her family into believing that she was good for nothing.

We are so caught up int he rat race, we don't stop and thank God for everything that we have, including the gift of life itself :)

Brilliant post

Kadambari said...

I myself don't know what to say here, Pisku. Most of the people commenting here have an instance or two of similar mis happenings in their lives. A friend, a relative. Hope, we learn from this.

KarSub said...

I was feeling very down and when I heard Nickelback's "If today was your last day" on the radio and I felt a lot better.

I guess we need to understand that - 'everyday is a gift and not a given right'. I'm sure your friend would have been pushed to edge of disparity by pressure from all quarters. I hope the people who read your post (including me) would remember the lesson when we're on the other side of the school gate.

Vishal said...

Aamin....
wel c this was a wrong decision taken frm that guy. ...
we all realized what was going on in his mind after he hanged up himself....
And now we all set to blame the Father & Mother of that guy....who gave a birth of their only single child thinking in their mind that one day he will hanged up due to our high expectations. isn't these all words (comments) humiliated them (the Father & Mother). well I said yes......

Let's put one of us on their place & think....Don't we tell our child to do this or that....don't we tell him to get a higher grade in his class....don't we want him to join extra classes like guitar or something else......don't we tell him to get a better job......of course yes.....
but the team here is all set to blame the Father & Mother...
someday we all will be Father/Mother that means you blamed yourself......

I told that the fault was his...we all been under pressure in our life, but that doesn't lead us to take a this decision. why..?
the full marks goes to yourself (we all).....
bcoz we handled that pressure at our own....
yes we need support frm our family & friends...but believe me the final decision will be frm our side.......

Anyway Happy Mother's Day....
Don't we forget that.....?
Vishal

agent green glass said...

nice post. sorry to hear about your friend.

but you are right...that's how it ends. sorry to hear about your friend/your son/your daughter/your child.

i lost a cousin two years back. he committed suicide. because he could not bear being the "unsuccessful one".

we hunger so much for success. we want our families to be so perfect. so wholesome. so great job, great house, great car... we sometimes forget that we're human. and its okay to fail.

sigh. i feel sad.

KarSub said...

Kaddu .. since this is a sombre post, I'll just say, please visit my blog.

Corinne Rodrigues said...

Kadambari - My condolences on your friend's passing - very tragic and ever so unnecessary. Your views are so right that I'd wish more parents would wake up to read this...I hate it when people list out all the stuff their kids are doing - hardly talking about the kind of people their kids are. It seems you and I were luckier and we have to thank God for this.
Hugs
Corinne

Kaddu said...

Hey K! I have been feeling this urge to blog about something related for quite a while now, but there was some kinda block, dunno what! Just couldn't feel inspired enuf to start typing that post! But going thru ur post... & the so many comments here... it has suddenly opened the "flood-gates"! I feel I must post it now! Tonight, I guess... will need some time to collect my thoughts...

Very well written post btw! (Did u know that "Kadambari" stands for "Goddess Saraswati"?) And thanks... to u and all the the commentators above... for helping clear my block! Love u all...

Kadambari said...

You're right Kartik. And I would check your post!

Vishal, Corinne. We sure are glad that we have been lucky in that aspect!

Good for you Kaddu! And Goddess Saraswati?! I have known only Goddess Lakshmi who's named so. Derived from the Kadamba flowers.

Mukund said...

Hey... So I am writing a post about recession after reading yours, it will be out in one or two days... Since this is something serious I thought I would ask. Can I use your name and this post in their (with the link ofcourse)?

Prasant Naidu. said...

Hi, well it's a bold bold step to finish ur life(when u forget about ur near and dear ones)...I am confident that i don't have the courage to kill myself but on the other side i am that happy my parents never forced me for studies(they knew very well i was dumb).

Keep Rocking,
Prasant

Vishal said...

hi....
wanna a suggest u all to read a post from Tikuli. I think that was a perfect lesson to these "The Generation Next" Boys & Girls, including all of us....
http://tikulicious.wordpress.com (This too will pass ..)

What a meaningful thoughts you all have been putting on ur blog, specially both Kaddus and now Tikuli....

Kadambari said...

Of course you can, Mukund.

I won't agree with you, Prasant, when you say you're dumb! No one's dumb! Just because you don't excel in one field doesn't mean you have no talent. Someday you'll know. Good for you that you parents brought you up for what you are. :)

Thanks for the link Vishal. Shall look that up.

tikulicious said...

Hi Kads came from the comment left by Vishal on my post and saw you too had commented. I wish the boy had read that story. One wonderful life wasted. It is sad the way all of us look at life. We are totally disconnected with our inner and succumb to social pressures.My condolences for your friend sweetheart. I hope every parent and anyone who reads this will wake up to the fact that life is a gift from the creator to us and we should live each pain each joy and each moment for that matter with grace and accept it that way. I feel sad for those who have little to offer apart from their own frustrations and failures to their growing kids. But I am sure this too will pas. lv ya

Vamsi said...

@ kadambari ...

sad story of the BITS pilani guy ...

Gymnast said...

This seems 2 me 2 be just an extension of the recent events - little shanno brutally punished 2 death for not being able 2 recite the alphabets. Sixteen year old akriti's principal referring 2 her as an "average" students , as if her life wasnt so important as she wasnt a high achiever. At some point , our society has totally lost focus and jumbled up priorities. And brought up a generation conditioned with these warped priorities... to them , they'd rather die if not successfull by this crazy society's standards.

Dexter said...

I was also "shocked beyond wits" kaddu.... like days and days I din know what to do... couldnt go to work some days....

it haunted me... to think of the loneliness... to think that he thought he was alone in the feeling...
to me... he was a part of bits for me... n whenever i think of bits... i also think of him... n i will always...

nyway... nicely written post... this mother's day... i sent an sms to my mom.. saying she's the world's greatest mom. and i meant it. keep writing..
Dexter.

askdheeraj said...

I am with you in your grief.I have lost two friends to 'suicide' in my life.I took up the specialty of Psychiatry, thinking I would be able to reduce at least few suicides.

I have realized that when psychiatrists missed a point by focusing suicide as a 'disease', your excellent post followed the comments show a better picture of many dimensions of the problem of suicide - family,peer pressure, society, intelligence, personality etc.

I suggest the possibility of him having had a illness- depression, which made him feel he was useless, helpless and that the future was hopeless. Even though you all realize there is evidence to the contrary.

Let us not blame his already grieving family, friends or even ourselves for his act.
If possible please learn to recognize signs and symptoms of mental illness in ones near and dear.(sorry for this post!)

Rajeev R said...

Suicide is the worst thing, one should be retorting to....Life gives many chances...

Loved your post...


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Pushkaraj said...

First of all, sorry to hear about your classmate. Human life is precious and a departure of this kind makes one ask a lot of questions. Looking back, I have had four people whom I knew end their lives - one as a student, two as young professionals and the third one a young housewife with a little son.
Among the multitude of questions that crows my mind the uppermost is - how does one define contentment? When does one stop chasing standards set by others and define benchmarks for self?
One more aspect that strikes me is how little time we have for each other these days. I don't blame a person for becoming pessimistic and feeling defeated - it can happen to anyone. But then in such moments who does one turn to for advice? I believe suicide victims keep turning inwards and further inwards till the point of no return. It is up to the people around to sense the turmoil and pay attention.
Unfortunately, such wisdom strikes us much later. Maybe, blogging can also offer this one benefit to the society?

Roshmi (Musings of an Unknown Indian) said...

Wonderful post Kadambari and very succintly put...

I can understand how it feels... to hear a terrible news such as this... I too have lost friends/batchmates to this scourge.

Everyone need not climb the peaks of the Himalayas... but it is very difficult to convince the parents of most children... this is more a matter of their misplaced 'prestige' than anything else. Unfortunately.

Everyone seems to be preparing their children for the 'rat race'... when will folks realize that they are 'human beings' and not 'rats'... ???

jome said...

hmm this would make it the 50th comment.
let's not paint the parents as being evil. they want their kids to do well and usually the most tried and tested way for a middle class person to do well is in the field of education.
also the dead cannot defend themselves and we don't even know the reasons for such an extreme action. the most decent thing we can do is not throw opinions about this.
somehow i am totally thrown off by the way such a private matter is discussed in public forums.

Kadambari said...

Yea. I guess that makes sense. But this was just to bring to light the extremities of the situation and am sure there's no harm in letting people know. Like Gymnast has mentioned the various instances above.

raghu said...

I know I was there :(

raghu said...

and i would like to second jome here...

Kadambari said...

OMG! Fine. I'm so sorry. I request readers not to analyze this thread.. anymore.

Jarlin said...

Good One, Kadambari. I agree with all your points. The one to blame is our society which put lot of pressure on the next generation. It is a written rule in our society that one has to pass out school with higher grade (Yes, everyone wants to become state first) at the age of 17 – 18, getting into premier Medical / Engineering institutes and coming out with colorful job(s) at the age of 22 – 24, getting married, having kids and settled down in life at the age of 27 - 29 to start pressurizing the next generation. If any of these tasks getting delayed our society will term it as “Failure”. Thus our kids are growing with “Fear of Failure” and they are not able to digest their set back. This attitude should get changed and we the current generation should take this in other way around by guiding our kids, but let them decide their future and let them live their own life. This helps to build the self confidence to face any obstacles in life.

I love this post, if you don’t mind; I would like to write about this in my blog and link the same to your post, thus spreading the awareness among young Bloggers.

Kadambari said...

Yea sure, Jarlin. But please do not mention this particular case as such. You could post about the general pressures on an individual these days. Thanks!

jome said...

@ kads : mwahahahahah! heeh, more than this blog which was actually pretty generic, there was this particular status, in a social forum, about the incident put by someone that flipped me out..the comments that immediately followed tat status was distasteful and highly condemnable. if u know not what i mean,u know where to find me ;)

Zillionbig said...

I second you in all that you have written. However, I feel there is more to that suicide than the one mentioned. Unemployment is probably just an ellipsis of larger things. There would be a case of mental illness or some sort of depression. A sense of worthlessness which would have built up over the years. Anyways, an excellent post.

Kadambari said...

Jomey dude.. I didn't get what you mean.. Shall ask!

Zillionbig. Yea.. I am no one to psychoanalyze it. I just wrote what I felt. We can never really know what a person thinks.. just take wild guesses!

Mukund said...

I think sometimes there is a sense of direction to one's life.The constant scrutiny by society to become high performers at work, home and validation from partners gets on to someone.I think this malaise won't disappear overnight.When i did my preuniversity in 1988 i did flunk in the public exam. I got pounded from my father merrily, but then i decided to stand on my own & paid my own fees & completed my education & built my reputation through hardwork.It is important hence that some NGOs comes with ADs regularly that the Be All & end All of life is not good scores but accumulation of confidence. They need to do this at a Pan India level. Good Posts , Jai ho failures of life.

Vijay Kumar Sappatti said...

This is awesome work of words .. what a wonderful post full of emotions and some basic reality . very good writing .

wishing you good luck.

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regards

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